Many people find that divorce is one of the most difficult things that they have to go through in their lives. Anxiety, sadness, anger and fear are some of the emotions that people experience after they go through a divorce. Self-talk is one of the ways that people cope with the pain of a divorce.
While positive self-talk can make it easier for one to get through a divorce, there are things that people tell themselves that are not true. Below is a list of some of the things that people often say to themselves after going through a divorce:
I Love My New Life
Many people see their divorce as a time to start fresh and accomplish new things. However, adjusting to life after divorce can still be very difficult. If you are having a very hard time adjusting to your new life, then you may want to reach out to family members and friends. It takes some time to heal, and you want to surround yourself with people who care about you during this time.
I Do Not Want To Get Married Again
Many people are so hurt after a divorce that they vow to never give love again. They tell themselves that they are not open to meeting anyone else in order to protect themselves from hurt. It is estimated that 80 percent of people who get divorced will eventually remarry, so there is a strong possibility you actually will re-marry however slim the chances feel right now.
I Do Not Care About My Ex Anymore
People often tell themselves that they could care less about their ex. Deep down, that is usually not true. You have spent a significant amount of time with your ex, so he or she was a big part of your life. That is why you will probably always care about him or her.
I Do Not Like Being Away From My Kids
Divorcing parents are often required to spend time away from their children. Many parents feel guilty about admitting that they might enjoy spending time away from their children. Even though you love your kids and value spending time with them, you do need a break. It is okay to enjoy your alone time. Spending some time away from your kids allows you to focus on doing nice things for yourself.
My Life Is Messed Up Because Of My Ex-Spouse
It is normal to feel like your life is completely messed up after going through a divorce. Divorce is a major change, but you will get through it. Everyone’s timeline for grieving the end of a marriage varies. Additionally, you cannot blame your ex for things that go wrong in your life.
Meeting Someone Would Help My Life Fall Into Place
Many people believe that the best way to get their lives together is to meet someone new. However, now is the time to focus on yourself, your career, hobbies and children. Chances are, you will meet someone after everything else falls into place. The idea is that by casting a light upon yourself, you can step into your full potential as a well-rounded person.